Hello from Hunter
Mark is 2 1/2 years sober. He is not drinking BUT his anger is out of control. It is horrible to be around someone who is angry all the time. His father's death in December really set him back. Some people are sicker than others. I truly believe that Mark is a wonderful person. However, he has massive issues surrounding money, savings, and so much more. He makes everything about him and immeditely goes to a place of anger. There is no communication. This is far from the dream of marriage that I keep holding on to. The serenity prayer says to ask for the courage to change the things you can. I am in the place I was when I had enough of he drinking. I am praying for the strength to set healthy boundaries and for the miracle of love, responsible living, passion and fun to return to my family.
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No real wisdom for you. But just wanted to say hang in there!
Dealing with partners who are drinking or drug addicts can be hell, but you DO control YOURSELF. Change your position from him to somewhere else. You make the decisions in your life. Not the addict.
Mark is a Dry Drunk. Look up this term on the web!
You can be sober for the rest of your life, but that does not necessarily mean that you have the healing of the mind that comes with honestly and sincerely working the 12-Step Program. Healing of the mind comes from God and God alone. This is the miracle of AA that seems so mysterious to outsiders. Work the Program: it really works!!! A dry drunk is someone who for whatever reasons forces him/herself to quit drinking, but never resolves the issues of the mind. Alcoholism is a MIND disease. Drinking alcohol is a SYMPTOM! Alcoholics who stop drinking will still display the
unhealthy symptoms of the disease of alcoholism: anger, resentment, bitterness, selfishness, paranoia, the desire to blame others for their problems, etc. If Mark has not worked the 12-Step
Program, get him to do this. If he has gone through the 12 Steps already, ask him to go through it again, this time with a "New Pair of Glasses." (Check out that book title on Amazon. It is beyond excellent!!!) Good luck and God bless!
You’re not alone. Every family has its issues, whether it’s addiction, mental illness, or anything of the sort. These are serious issues that affect adolescents just like it does adults. I’ve found that Silver Hill Hospital’s adolescent substance abuse treatment program to be very informative. They have a number of treatment programs that encourage family involvement in the recovery process.
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