NEW BEGINNINGS

Short blog from Hunter...

I am exhausted.! But in a good way. I started a second part time job today-this one is in a field that I have wanted to explore and with a growth opportunity. Best is that the pay is 2x as much as my other part time job. Even better news is that Mark started a new job today!!!!!!!!! This is a true miracle and a milestone on our road to recovery.

I know so much is going to get better now that we are both working...And best of all we are both doing things we enjoy. Mark full time and me part time, which works well for me as I do want to have the flexibility to be there for our son.

I have also been invited to sit on a state panel to help evaluate how the state is spending its resources helping adults 18 and over with addiction programs. In a word I think money should be spent in areas that it is not at present-including training people in the courts and family services about addiction and recovery. I have many ideas and I hope that this new role will

help make a difference.

Thank you to all of you who have been sending us prayers. Please keep sending them, we are not out of the woods yet in terms of financial difficulties but we are on the right track. I also firmly believe that prayers are not answered until those who the prayers are meant for are truly open and ready to receive....It is amazing what does happen when we open ourselves to healing.

On another matter Mark and I need to work on communication. I am much further along in my 12 step recovery than Mark and am much less angry. I know when to just let things go and not take them to heart..He does not yet know how to to do this. It creates tremendous tension on a daily basis as he overreacts to everything. BUT the good thing is that we continue to talk about these things and he is aware....He is excited and nervous about his new work-I have to stay calm and help him be balanced... Luckily he is surrounded by strong program and friends in the program and his new boss is in recovery....Does not get much better than that for a new transition! God is truly looking out for us.

Until tomorrow.

Hunter

Don't Engage

Fairly uneventful weekend....except for finding out there is no money in the bank...Will have to find out what is going on Monday. This time it is not Mark's fault. Although as a recovering alcoholic he thinks everything his his fault. Mark projects a lot of his anger and bad feelings onto me and our son and acts out terribly. But as I have have said before I understand what it is...he talks about it and calms down and stops the behavior...I stand up for myself and also learn when to just not engage as it is useless and the episode is meaningless. When things calm down I discuss and slowly things are getting better. mark carries his AA big book everyplace with him. He is serious about this recovery and I am proud of him... We are enjoying more and more good family time together....All getting better one day at time..

That's it...short blog as not much to say. I hope Mark blogs soon. I know he is thinking about it.

Regards,

Hunter