It's been a year in Recovery! Happy New Year!

Hello from Hunter-It has been a crazy year but a good one. Mark received his one year coin this week and continues to work ALL the tools of the AA program and live it one day at at time. I do not attend many alanon meetings anymore but I know I have strong program. Year 2 of recovery is about ANGER..And Mark has plenty of it...He is learning to deal with it and I am learning (alanon has taught me well) to just let his anger pass and not to confront or engage. It will pass and he will realize what he did and acknowledge it....AND in time I know it will improve.Our son continues to do well and LOVES being with his dad....Life has not been without challenges....Mark lost his job-that's a long story but suffice to say that it was not his fault and he worked for a person who does not honor his word...SO, instead of falling apart we are on to the next thing, we are starting a business and Mark is vigilant about setting it up and making it work....AND as part of it he tells people he is working with he is in recovery-he is not ashamed.As for me...I have taken this year to take a deep breath and enjoy a home that is not in chaos constantly. I am starting to clear and clean closets and clutter (UGH there is sooooo much of it) and I think by next year it will be finished-I mean 2009 not 2008! But hopefully sooner. I am also seeing myself much more clearly and understanding my role in life as a caretaker of everyone else but myself. This has got to change. I can love and care for others but I must learn more about me and take care of me. I have forgotten how to do this and I plan to relearn this over the next year. Our son got an electric guitar for the holidays and loves it. He will take lessons next year..What a great way to release his energy, and not watch so much TV......I always wanted a house full of music, I am so glad he has an interest. As part of our recovery as a family Mark and I are going to go to a couples workshop in January. We have spent this year focusing on sobriety and becoming a family again. Now we have to focus on really living with sobriety and rebuilding our marriage. So there are many challenges ahead as we enter into year two of a family in recovery: me taking care of me and dealing with my many issues; Mark working on his anger; Mark and I working on our marriage; building a new business; and giving our son the family and life he deserves.....and Mark also rebuilding relationship with his daughters, which he is starting to do. I know for me all of this is easier with a sober husband who loves me and our son.Happy New Year to all.Hunter....
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